Knowing When to Let Go and Level Up in Your Career"

Last week, I had the pleasure of attending an event hosted by the Black Chamber of Commerce here in San Diego called "Her Story, Our Strength". The event was all about celebrating the incredible journeys of women who inspire, empower, and pave the way forward. It was a beautiful mix of women from different ages and backgrounds, each with their own dreams, challenges, and ambitions.

As I grabbed my plate from Bowlegged BBQ (shout out to them for that delicious food!), I sat at the head of a table, and soon a woman named Sara joined me. She didn’t have a plate, so we struck up a conversation. Sara shared her health goal of losing over 10 pounds, and without thinking, I asked her, "From where?" I was surprised because she looked perfectly fine to me. She laughed and explained that her goal wasn’t about how she looked but about feeling better about herself. I could respect that; I’m on my own journey of growth, just in a different direction.

We talked about work, and when I shared how I left my corporate job to bridge the gap for Black women in C-level roles, she opened up too. She told me how, despite earning her MBA, she was passed over for a role, only to see someone else, with less experience, get the chance. At first, I thought it was because of her race, but then she said something that stuck with me: “God had something better for me.”

This got me thinking: sometimes, we set goals thinking they’ll make us feel more qualified or more worthy, but often, those goals aren’t the ones we really need. In the workplace, it’s not always about degrees or certifications. It’s about knowing when to exit a situation that no longer serves you and when to go for what truly aligns with your purpose.

If you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself: Is this where I’m supposed to be, or am I holding on because I think I have to prove myself? Goals are important, but your peace matters too. Sometimes, the best move is valuing yourself enough to create your own lane. Remember, leaving isn’t quitting—it’s leveling up.