Sis, It’s Time to Stop Being Lukewarm About Your Growth

Yesterday was Thanksgiving, and you know how holidays have a way of making you reflect. I was sitting there thinking about where I was mentally and emotionally 15 years ago versus where I am now. I also thought about who was still here to share the day with me.

When I first moved to San Diego at 24, the family was deep. My cousin Michelle, Aunt Mae, great Uncle Windell and Aunt Verta—they were all here. My younger cousins Jahquise and Brittany were close too. Fast forward to now, I’m 39, and most of them have either passed on or moved on. Yesterday, it was just me, my younger cousin Jaz (aka Bighead), and my great Uncle Gene. We hit up Sizzler for Thanksgiving dinner, and honestly? It was such a blessing to sit with family and have those real, unfiltered conversations. Sometimes life slows you down just enough to remind you how much those moments matter.

Later that night, I got comfy at home and started watching snippets of the Hardly Initiated podcast on YouTube. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s these two brothers sharing their faith journey while being honest about life’s struggles. They had Jerry Flowers Jr. on, and he dropped a word. One of the hosts mentioned being called a “lukewarm Christian,” and Jerry explained it perfectly. He said being lukewarm is like being married but acting single—you’re living in the gray.

That stuck with me because it hit close to home. I started thinking about areas where I’ve been lukewarm—like my business and even some family relationships. Sis, starting a business? Whew, it’s like birthing a whole child. And trying to be the generational breaker in the family? That’s a whole nother type of work. I catch myself sometimes wanting to keep things the same just because it’s easier, even when I know it’s time for change.

But here’s what I’m learning: being lukewarm isn’t an option if you’re serious about growth. You’re either all in or all out. The Bible says it plainly—you’re either hot or cold.

So let me ask you: What are you lukewarm about? That business idea you’ve been sitting on? That promotion you’re scared to go after? The relationship that needs your attention? Sis, it’s time to decide. Either you’re going to go for it, or you’re not.

Life’s detours are there to remind us what’s really important. When you step out of that gray area and fully commit to your next move, you’ll find excitement in every new version of yourself. And guess what? The best is yet to come.

Let’s go, sis. The time for playing it safe is over. It’s your season! 🖤✌🏾 Coach C